Are You Destined for Social Mastery? (Pt2)

If you haven’t had a chance to read part 1 yet on “Are you Destined for Social Mastery?” Then feel free to click on the link below.

Are you Destined to be a Social Master? (Pt1)

You’ll find out why I have the picture above as you read the blog.

I know it hasn’t been 30 days yet, but I hope that some of you are rewiring your brain to be social masters. Don’t ignore the fact that you need to socially reprogram yourself first. Most people miss this step, and it’s very critical to your success.

In this blog I’m going to share with you a story about me, and why you have to act what you believe in.

Quite a while back, about a year ago, I started to put affirmations on my wall. One of my affirmations that hangs right above my computer is this

“I am surrounded by people who are more successful than I am in all aspects of life, and am grateful for those that helped me achieve my success.”

Now that doesn’t mean I don’t hang out with people who are “less successful” than I am. But that does mean staying away from people who don’t have the same drive to advance their professional and social life, and who are big complainers. People that complain about being single, or how much they hate their job, or how much this city sucks to live in.

And so along the way I took some of my first steps to get rid of that negativity. I started shedding and seeing people less often that did not contribute to my life in a meaningful way. Shedding an old social lifestyle can be hard to do, it’s like mourning, especially if it’s a lifestyle we’ve grown accustomed to. We get comfortable and don’t want to work hard at creating a whole new social network.

But what also happened was that even though I was shedding old contacts, I still ended up attracting similar new people into my life. I didn’t feel that they were going to educate me in a way that would shine a “Wow” insight into how to run my business or my life. I wanted to be able to exchange ideas with great minds, people who were passionate, who took action, were engaging in life, who wanted to exchange ideas freely and offer feedback, and help me get out of my freakin’ comfort zone.

When I realized that most of the people I met weren’t pushing me out of my comfort zone, I knew I was meeting the wrong group of people for me.

I sat down, and I questioned myself.

“Why was I not meeting the people I wanted to meet?”
After some thinking, I realized it’s because I secretly rejected successful people. It sounds strange, but it’s true. I rejected success in my life. The same success that I was seeking. This was a huge hypocritical belief I had in my life. And this is how I knew personally that I wasn’t going to surround myself with successful people in my life.

I looked at the results and actions that were being produced.

• I hardly ever asked out anybody that was more successful than I was in life out for coffee or to meet up just to chat. (Being around another person’s energy can make a huge difference!)

• I never asked more successful people for advice on how to get ahead in the world of business. I was always secretly afraid that they were going to charge me for the services or somehow rudely say no. Which to this date the worst answer I’ve gotten is a “no.”

• Even when I would get invited to drinks with a group of people who held a small seminar, I would politely decline. I never got to know these people on a personal level.

Even though I was hoping to meet all these wonderful people in my life I never quite did. Once I truly became aware, I started to match my actions with my beliefs. And not only that I had to take the right actions and learn to act more like the successful people I wanted to meet. And this was the tricky part…I had to be coached by others, I had to observe, and get out of my damn comfort zone.

What’s resulted? I’m not going to lie, I don’t associate with people like Tony Robbins, or Jack Canfield yet (they’re on my list of people to meet). But I have met people who I consider great people.

People like Ronald Lee of Man Meets Woman, Andrew Parkes, Ricky Shetty who is a great connector, my wonderful girlfriend, Simon Chu and Edward Leung, and Margie from Vibelife.

SOOOO…look at yourself. Ask yourself a simple question. Are you doing what you believe in. If you want more dates in your life with attractive women, then are you actually doing the first steps which is talking to attractive women?
Don’t be a hypocrite….Do the actions that are congruent with your own beliefs. Beliefs don’t do much without the right action.

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